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Roland Lanar Welch
May 1, 1964 ~ December 4, 2016 (age 52) 52 Years Old Light a Candle
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A candle was lit by Zachary, Megan, and Leviathan Gazaway
on December 7, 2016 9:26 PM
A candle was lit by kenneth and brenda spurgeon
on December 7, 2016 3:31 PM
Message from kenneth and brenda spurgeon
December 7, 2016 3:30 PM
our heartfelt prayers go out to the family of Lanar for your loss. we have known him since the late 90's and knew him as a kind and honest man. he'll be missed by his family for sure, and the community.
A candle was lit by Deborah Macon
on December 6, 2016 2:05 PM
Message from Deborah Macon
December 6, 2016 2:04 PM
Was sadden to hear about Lanar's passing. I've known Lanar for over 35 years. His mother Hazel was a friend a co-worker of mine. When she passed Lanar so so nice and gave me one of her Bibles and some denim shorts; he was such a compassionate and caring you man. He will surely be missed! Praying that God gives you peace.
Message from Paula Dyer Kyle
December 6, 2016 8:19 AM
N HONOR OF LANAR, CINDY, Kandra Steele AND MARTHA CAROTHERS....................
How do you act when someone is in pain from losing a close family member? What do you say? What can you do? How are you supposed to respond? Well..The first thing I do is hit my knees and ask God to give me the answers to these questions. I ask him to fill me with compassion that I can share with those that grieve. To give me words that comfort and soothe. To help me be a balm of healing to be used at their discretion. Because we all know the confusion of grief when it is our own burden, our own loved one. It is easy to be misunderstood when your grieve stricken friend is broken and shattered. Many people, ( most people ) show up for solidarity but stumble on their words to only repeat over and over the known acceptable responses, " I am so sorry for your loss. ".. " If there is anything I can do? "...."If you need anything, "...There is absolutely nothing wrong with these responses except that it leaves you, as their friend, feeling that there is more you could have said. More that you could have done..It leaves you feeling inadequate. Because you know deep down in your heart that the only love they want to feel is from the very person who has started their journey home. You feel that your empathy, your sympathy doesn't hold up to par. Now enters the proverbial bull in the china shop. That is usually me. I try to be me. Awkward. Saying and doing the wrong things that make others shake their heads and say.." OMG "..." I can't believe she said that! "..." I can't believe she did that! " and the ever present..." What was she thinking? "..Like I said. I am just me. I found out at age 15 when my father passed..at age 23 when my mother passed and with the four children that I lost..That the most comfort I could accept was from those that were truthful, honest and that said the unusual. I was numb standing in the receiving line at my mothers funeral at Loves funeral home. I was bombarded with each and every person saying the same exact thing..Then one of my moms friends grasped my hand. She leaned in close and said.." Now listen to me young lady. If you think for one second that just because your mom isn't here any more that you can use this as an excuse to run buck wild..YOU have another thing coming! " I fell into her arms and cried like I have never cried before or since. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I still take peace from that statement. There will always be death because it is a part of life. Sometimes it is a friend, a spouse, a parent or a friend of a friend. However as the person who is left to pick up their lives with a void so blatantly obvious it is our responsibility to carry on, drag on, or just press forward. To put yourself on autopilot and get through the day. I had a woman look me in the eye on her death bed. Knowing she had NO time left and she made one request of me. She said, " Please. Please love my children. They had nothing to do with my choices. " I told her yes because I understood. For those of us that are still here waiting to go home in our own time. We all should know. The most important thing we can give out of respect to the deceased..Well.. It is to continue to love those that they are leaving behind. Love their children. Be truthful to them. Honor the dead with a good and decent life making them proud. Help them leave peacefully by agreeing to set an example for their children like they would do if they were here. The biggest lie of a terminal illness is that it was expected. Death is assured but NEVER expected and ALWAYS shocking. There is good news. Just like death is assured , so is life. You can be sure. Beyond a shadow of a doubt. That if you died today..You will spend eternity with your loved ones that have gone before you. That is what Jesus gave us all. Directions to get to them. To life everlasting. To a Father that never gave up on us, never left us, and saw worth in the lowest most unworthy of us. That is where I want to be. Where I will never cry again unless it is tears of joy. It is a choice. On September 18th 1994 I knelt at my seat in a small packed church and I spoke to Jesus. I reminded him of who and what I am. I also told him that I had screwed my life up for 31 years and if he was willing to step out of heaven and into my heart I would try to do things His way. I placed my all my care ( physical, mental, and emotional well being ) , into his very capable hands. I had faith ( belief in something unseen and untouchable ) that he moved right on into my heart. I talked with him one on one because I immediately started to remember the sins , ( some egregious ) , that I had willingly committed. Thinking this is another lie. How could the son of God love you after what you have done? That was when a peace came over me. My next thought was .." Of the two choices you have..Who really lies? " ..I knew then that Jesus was with me and I told him how very sorry I was for ALL the things I have done. That I didn't want to do those kinds of things anymore..That I needed his help. his guidance, and his instruction. That was the day I met the Son of the living God. Whew. Holy can't even describe. Everything else..just gravy. Life will continue for me because I asked Jesus to come into my heart ( to live with me in my daily life ). I repented of my sin, ( Told him I was truly sorry for my sin and meant it. ), and I placed my faith in him. ( I trust him and all he gives me, kindness, mercy etc..that it is to my benefit ) ..What a day! As a perk..I get to go to heaven. I get to see all my loved ones that made the same decision I did. Anyone who is reading this can do the same. Right now. Where ever you are. Just close your eyes and start talking to Jesus. Get your business handled. Ask him to step out of heaven and into your life as I did. Tell Him what you need him to know and then just accept his love. Then call someone..anyone.. and tell them what you have done and ask them who you need to talk to so you can get some answers for what comes next. Easy Peasy..Now..Well .. Now I get to see Lanar. Because it is to my understanding that he also made this decision. He took this gift from God and now he sits among the Holy. He is healthy in a new body surrounded by the love of Our Father. Being comforted like no other except for those that have gone before him. So for the here and the now. I say goodbye to Lanar. A brother in Christ. I will see you soon. Some will see you sooner. But we will look forward to you showing us the best places to be, the best things to see and the ins and outs of how to gain the attention of God our Father when we get to heaven. Brother. Your job here is done. Don't worry about us. We got this.
How do you act when someone is in pain from losing a close family member? What do you say? What can you do? How are you supposed to respond? Well..The first thing I do is hit my knees and ask God to give me the answers to these questions. I ask him to fill me with compassion that I can share with those that grieve. To give me words that comfort and soothe. To help me be a balm of healing to be used at their discretion. Because we all know the confusion of grief when it is our own burden, our own loved one. It is easy to be misunderstood when your grieve stricken friend is broken and shattered. Many people, ( most people ) show up for solidarity but stumble on their words to only repeat over and over the known acceptable responses, " I am so sorry for your loss. ".. " If there is anything I can do? "...."If you need anything, "...There is absolutely nothing wrong with these responses except that it leaves you, as their friend, feeling that there is more you could have said. More that you could have done..It leaves you feeling inadequate. Because you know deep down in your heart that the only love they want to feel is from the very person who has started their journey home. You feel that your empathy, your sympathy doesn't hold up to par. Now enters the proverbial bull in the china shop. That is usually me. I try to be me. Awkward. Saying and doing the wrong things that make others shake their heads and say.." OMG "..." I can't believe she said that! "..." I can't believe she did that! " and the ever present..." What was she thinking? "..Like I said. I am just me. I found out at age 15 when my father passed..at age 23 when my mother passed and with the four children that I lost..That the most comfort I could accept was from those that were truthful, honest and that said the unusual. I was numb standing in the receiving line at my mothers funeral at Loves funeral home. I was bombarded with each and every person saying the same exact thing..Then one of my moms friends grasped my hand. She leaned in close and said.." Now listen to me young lady. If you think for one second that just because your mom isn't here any more that you can use this as an excuse to run buck wild..YOU have another thing coming! " I fell into her arms and cried like I have never cried before or since. It was exactly what I needed to hear. I still take peace from that statement. There will always be death because it is a part of life. Sometimes it is a friend, a spouse, a parent or a friend of a friend. However as the person who is left to pick up their lives with a void so blatantly obvious it is our responsibility to carry on, drag on, or just press forward. To put yourself on autopilot and get through the day. I had a woman look me in the eye on her death bed. Knowing she had NO time left and she made one request of me. She said, " Please. Please love my children. They had nothing to do with my choices. " I told her yes because I understood. For those of us that are still here waiting to go home in our own time. We all should know. The most important thing we can give out of respect to the deceased..Well.. It is to continue to love those that they are leaving behind. Love their children. Be truthful to them. Honor the dead with a good and decent life making them proud. Help them leave peacefully by agreeing to set an example for their children like they would do if they were here. The biggest lie of a terminal illness is that it was expected. Death is assured but NEVER expected and ALWAYS shocking. There is good news. Just like death is assured , so is life. You can be sure. Beyond a shadow of a doubt. That if you died today..You will spend eternity with your loved ones that have gone before you. That is what Jesus gave us all. Directions to get to them. To life everlasting. To a Father that never gave up on us, never left us, and saw worth in the lowest most unworthy of us. That is where I want to be. Where I will never cry again unless it is tears of joy. It is a choice. On September 18th 1994 I knelt at my seat in a small packed church and I spoke to Jesus. I reminded him of who and what I am. I also told him that I had screwed my life up for 31 years and if he was willing to step out of heaven and into my heart I would try to do things His way. I placed my all my care ( physical, mental, and emotional well being ) , into his very capable hands. I had faith ( belief in something unseen and untouchable ) that he moved right on into my heart. I talked with him one on one because I immediately started to remember the sins , ( some egregious ) , that I had willingly committed. Thinking this is another lie. How could the son of God love you after what you have done? That was when a peace came over me. My next thought was .." Of the two choices you have..Who really lies? " ..I knew then that Jesus was with me and I told him how very sorry I was for ALL the things I have done. That I didn't want to do those kinds of things anymore..That I needed his help. his guidance, and his instruction. That was the day I met the Son of the living God. Whew. Holy can't even describe. Everything else..just gravy. Life will continue for me because I asked Jesus to come into my heart ( to live with me in my daily life ). I repented of my sin, ( Told him I was truly sorry for my sin and meant it. ), and I placed my faith in him. ( I trust him and all he gives me, kindness, mercy etc..that it is to my benefit ) ..What a day! As a perk..I get to go to heaven. I get to see all my loved ones that made the same decision I did. Anyone who is reading this can do the same. Right now. Where ever you are. Just close your eyes and start talking to Jesus. Get your business handled. Ask him to step out of heaven and into your life as I did. Tell Him what you need him to know and then just accept his love. Then call someone..anyone.. and tell them what you have done and ask them who you need to talk to so you can get some answers for what comes next. Easy Peasy..Now..Well .. Now I get to see Lanar. Because it is to my understanding that he also made this decision. He took this gift from God and now he sits among the Holy. He is healthy in a new body surrounded by the love of Our Father. Being comforted like no other except for those that have gone before him. So for the here and the now. I say goodbye to Lanar. A brother in Christ. I will see you soon. Some will see you sooner. But we will look forward to you showing us the best places to be, the best things to see and the ins and outs of how to gain the attention of God our Father when we get to heaven. Brother. Your job here is done. Don't worry about us. We got this.
Message from R. Faust
December 6, 2016 6:24 AM
My thoughts are with the Welch Family and friends of Roland, may your many wonderful memories bring you the peace of our great God of comfort and hearer of prayers. (Psalm 65:2) My sincere condolence to all of you.
A candle was lit by Raymond DeLay
on December 5, 2016 11:18 PM
A candle was lit by Lanar Welch
on December 5, 2016 10:43 PM
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